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Role-Playing: Professor and Student

The most common emails we get are about oral sex, but a little way down the list are questions from folks who want to incorporate role-playing in their sex life, but aren’t really sure how to get...

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How to Admire Your Husband’s Penis

Men often have as much body shame as women do, even though it’s not as acceptable for a man to admit it. As I wrote in my previous post about making the most of the size you’ve got, it’s common for a...

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Role-Playing: Bratty Wife

Bratty: “spoiled, self-centered, and badly behaved”. I’m blessed to have a charming, peaceful, and generous wife in Sexy Corte, and having a bratty wife (or husband!) would certainly be very...

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Loading Screen Make-Out Session

After the kids go to bed Sexy Corte and I often spend the evening playing games together — board games or video games. We find that cooperative games are a great opportunity to work together on a fun...

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Sex Q&A: Swearing During Sex

Reader “MN” asks a question we’ve gotten a few times but have only addressed briefly: Good sir, first want to say thank you for this site. I really appreciate your time and how gentle, yet how firm you...

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Spontaneous and Responsive Sexuality

Are you ever confused by your own sexual arousal? By what turns you on and when? Or… maybe you’re confused by your spouse. Why doesn’t she ever initiate sex? Why is he always so turned on? The “he” and...

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How to Get Your Wife to Lust for You

The “husbands” tag will lead you to several posts intended to help husbands be more attractive to their wives, including topics like clothes, muscles, hygiene, and improving her orgasms. Today I’m...

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How to Use Classical Conditioning to Enhance Your Sex Life

We’ve written a little about classical conditioning before (When My Wife Puts Her Hair Up, Husband’s Hands When Wife Is On Top) and readers have asked for a bit more detail, so here it goes. First,...

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Secret Engravings Gift Idea

Rings with engraving on the inner face can be bought online for under $15, so why not create one for your spouse with a sexy secret inside? No one in public will know what’s written there, so you can...

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Improve Your Sex Life By Tracking Your Monthly Cycle

Several years ago I started experiencing some sexual frustration. El Fury and I had a few kids and life was getting more complicated. I felt like there were frequent times I would be in the mood, but...

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How Did You Sleep?

The answer to this question (at least sometimes) should be naked! Sleeping naked is very sexy. Not only does your skin feel amazing right up against your spouse’s, but feeling nice and silky sheets as...

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Bondage for Beginners: What, Why, and How

This post is also available as a podcast: Podcast #006: Bondage for Beginners It seems like there’s a lot of interest in bondage these days, and many couples are experimenting with stuff they never...

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Welcome Home Sex

Nothing says “welcome home!” like a warm embrace from your spouse. Travel can be frantic, and if you have to travel for work it can be a stress on your marriage. Sexy Corte and I are fortunate that we...

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What Are We Going to Do For Foreplay Tonight?

Roll a six-sided die twice and consult the tables. Use the “Even” table is your first roll is even, and the “Odd” table if your first roll is odd. First roll was odd: Make out Bath or shower together...

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Fake It ‘Til You Become It

Amy Cuddy describes how your body language can affect your hormones, thoughts, and behaviors. Tiny tweaks can lead to big changes. The specifics of her experiment apply to feelings of power and...

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Bifecta: Television and Casual Oral Sex

We’ve written about the trifecta previously — as inspired by Seinfeld: sex + food + television. This post is about the sex + television bifecta. We don’t watch a lot of television, but it can be a...

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Asking Permission to Orgasm

Orgasm permission is a submission technique that’s easy to add to your sexual repertoire and can add a little mind-play to an otherwise vanilla encounter. (And vanilla is great! When you’ve got a...

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Tie, Tease, Trivia: Harry Potter Edition

Sexy Corte and I have been inching our way through the Harry Potter movies in the evenings after the kids go to bed. We both enjoy the movies and the books, but SC is a super-fan. The movies are...

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Q&A: How Do I Get My Wife to Swallow and Enjoy It?

This post is also available as a podcast: Podcast #005: Yes, You Should Swallow Since we posted on the topic of jaw pain during oral sex we’ve received a flood of questions with a similar theme, from...

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Losing Control

“I never grow tired of your sexuality.” El Fury said these words to me a few weeks ago and ever since I’ve been percolating on them. Those words make me feel alive and treasured. God wired us to be...

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How To Give Your Husband a Topless Haircut

We’re pretty frugal and my hair is simple, so Sexy Corte cuts my hair for me on a regular basis. (I don’t blame her for not requesting that I return the favor.) I’m sure many wives do the same, so...

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“Would You Like to Touch My Boobs?”

Sexy Corte could tell I was getting a little stressed out over Thanksgiving weekend, but she had the perfect antidote. “Would you like to touch my boobs?” she asked, lifting her clothes. Yes, yes I...

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The Five Love Languages and Sex

Sexy Corte and I are fans of Gary Chapman’s book “The 5 Love Languages”. We first read the book when we were engaged, and we’ve frequently discussed the ideas in the book in the years since. We’ve...

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Edging: Prolonged Stimulation for Huge Orgasms

I previously wrote about the Harry Potter trivia night we had, wherein I tied Sexy Corte down and asked her trivia questions while I licked and vibrated her. The primary sexual element we used is...

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When My Wife Puts Her Hair Up

Sexy Corte has Pavlov’ed me to get turned on whenever I see her put her hair up. When we’re getting into sexy time, especially Old Faithful, pulling her hair up is usually the final bit of...

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Don’t Stop the Love Train

Yes, it’s a funny metaphor, but the advice is good: once you’ve boarded the Love Train don’t stop it until you reach the station. Barring emergencies, when you start sexy time with your spouse you’re...

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How to Turn Your Husband On in Public

Wives, what’s the worst thing about going out in public? The answer is obvious: when you’re in public, you’re not having sex with your husband. (Unless you are.) So, in an effort to make boring public...

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Cleaning the Ceiling Fan

When your spouse’s love language is Acts of Service, it is fun to find new ways to spice up boring chores. You can accomplish a task as well as make your spouse feel loved AND have fun in the process....

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How to Increase Intimacy During Sex

On this blog we tend to spend the most words on the physical and mental dimensions of sex with your spouse: topics like games, positions, role-playing, toys, and having more sex. We also talk a lot...

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How To Do Sexual Role-Playing

Maybe you’ve wanted to try role-playing for a while, or maybe you’ve read some of our role-playing posts, but you just aren’t sure how to get started — if so, this post is for you! It’s common to feel...

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Reading Your Wife’s Sexual Indicators of Interest

We already know that it’s common for a husband to underestimate his wife’s sex drive — women tend to be a lot more subtle than men, to such an extent that your wife herself might not even know when...

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Bifecta: Café Fellatio

I love coffee and oral sex, but until now I hadn’t thought of combining them! We’ve written before about one kind of bifecta (television and casual oral sex) and here’s another: Café Fellatio. A bar...

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Intense Focus on Your Senses Makes Great Sex

Why is sex so good? Kinda like asking, “why is water wet?” But still, if we understand what makes sex good then maybe we can make it even better! One of the main questions in life is: Why is sex so...

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Pirates and Poetry Night

We’ve been drawing an activity from our adult advent calendar every morning this month, and yesterday we drew one of Sexy Corte’s ideas: “pirates and poetry”. It’s exactly what it sounds like: we...

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How to Create Your Sexual Bucket List and Share It With Your Spouse

A survey of 2,000 sexually active American adults has revealed the top activities that are on our sexual bucket lists. (It’s a little hard to read, but that’s the best image I could find.) It may not...

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When I Want an Orgasm

Desire for a woman ebbs and flows in tune with her cycle. It can be hard enough for a woman to know what sort of “mood” she is in, let alone for her husband to be able to determine if she wants an...

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Ice Cream vs. Sex

El Fury and I love ice cream. We try to be disciplined and restrain our urges to a few times a week, and we get very excited when it’s “ice cream night”. Sometimes if we haven’t had sex, I find myself...

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Do Whatever It Takes to Give Your Wife as Many Orgasms as She wants

Husbands, I’ll be very direct: if you wife isn’t having regular orgasms then she isn’t going to love having sex. She might enjoy the intimacy of sex, she might like to give you pleasure, she might do...

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Sexy Scavenger Hunt

Are you looking for a fun gift idea for your spouse? Surprise them with a sexy scavenger hunt! I recently created this for El Fury’s Christmas present, but it can work for birthdays or any other...

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Role-Playing: Photographer and Model

Photographer-and-Model is a fun role-playing scenario that can help facilitate sexual communication and vulnerability. You can probably figure out the basics yourself: one spouse plays a Photographer,...

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Sexual Stimulation Promotes Openness and Agreeableness

Research confirms that people will say just about anything to get laid and the linked article frames this phenomenon as a form of deception, but I think it’s more useful to view it as enhanced...

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Men Can Smell When a Woman Is Aroused or Ovulating

We’re a little busy with virtual school right now, but here are a couple of links that connect male attraction and female scent. Men can smell when a woman is sexually aroused. Findings were...

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What If Both Spouses Are Responsive Instead of Spontaneous?

Many readers have told us that our post about Spontaneous and Responsive Sexuality has been eye-opening, but what if neither you nor your spouse is sexually spontaneous? What if you’re both responsive?...

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Perfect Example of Trying Again

This post is a follow-up to conversation we had with wife “LT” about the struggles she and her husband were having with doggy style. LT was very open about their challenges, and several of our readers...

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Improve Sex By Focusing on the Peak and the End

This post will share ideas about how to use the happy-ending effect and the peak-end rule to improve your sexual encounters. Sex doesn’t always go perfectly, and that’s ok! Sometimes we build up grand...

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Role-Playing: Diana and Orion

This is pretty geeky, but here are some ideas for performing a sexual re-enactment of the myth of Diana and Orion. (Diana is also called Artemis and Selene.) There’s no definitive form of the myth, so...

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Role-Playing: Cupid and Psyche

If you enjoyed Role-Playing: Diana and Orion then you might like this scenario from reader SLS based on the myth of Cupid and Psyche. (Edited slightly.) The myth of Cupid (or Eros) and Psyche can also...

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Madonna’s “Into the Groove”

Our youngest daughter found a Madonna CD somewhere and has been playing “Into the Groove” non-stop. These lyrics haven’t changed since the first time our ancient ancestors banged two rocks together and...

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Creating Art While Sexually Aroused

Sexy Corte is planning a podcast episode about sex and art, and as we were discussing it I came up with the idea for the project behind this post: what’s it like to create art while sexually aroused?...

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Being Present in the Moment with Orgasmic Meditation

“The Future is, of all things, the thing least like eternity. It is the most temporal part of time–for the Past is frozen and no longer flows, and the Present is all lit up with eternal rays.” — C.S....

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